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Libido, Sex and Sexual Energy

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Libido, Sex, Sexual Energy, Men and Women

So much of human existence revolves around sex and ideas about sex. We see it in advertising, on television, in print media, and of course, online. Yet most people remain completely unaware of the impact that sex has on our lives, our ability to function, and of course, our ability to be productive and efficient.

Talk of sex is kind of taboo in the productivity world – it’s that little and often inconvenient fact that people don’t want to discuss, and that people are often afraid to discuss or be associated with.

Generally, we’ve found that people tend to have one of three reactions to talk of sex and its impact on our daily lives:

  1. Agreement – they tend to know what’s going on, and often agree with what we’ve written about it.
  2. Silence – either out of shame, or not wanting to be associated with a taboo subject.
  3. Argument – especially when something said hits a nerve. Well, we did say it was controversial.

Why Libido, Sex and Sexual Energy?

As we’ve mentioned, for something that people spend a lot of time, money and energy pursuing, sex is poorly represented in research and explanation. Sure, there have been a good number of studies done, but a lot of the findings are often buried under social constraints or agendas. Sex is probably one of the most controlled acts on the planet – yet it is also one of the most basic functions of being human.

If you understand sex and libido, you can use it to your advantage, rather than let it roam free and unrestrained.

How Sex Helps You

We introduced this diagram in our introductory series on Sex, Productivity and Motivation.

The AE Sex and Motivation Chart

Keep in mind, it is just a model – a simplification of the real world.

At a basic level, it shows how sex influences all our decisions on a daily basis, and how understanding this influence is the key to making sex work for us, rather than against us. It also uncovers the fairly insidious notion that often, the agendas of others (family, religion, government, society) is not in our best interests, especially when it comes to beliefs, ideas and regulations regarding sex.

Getting Started

Some ideas and productivity tips about managing our sex lives and sexual energy are a little too “out there” for public consumption – and there’s only one place we share them: in our newsletters. We also share a lot of exclusive ideas, discussion and information about time management and productivity topics. You’ll be able to access Asian Efficiency content that is not available anywhere else – it’s for subscribers ONLY. You can subscribe below and we will send you some great content right after your signup.

We’ve written an introductory series about sex, productivity and motivation, with more to come. Here’s what each is about.

  • An introduction to Sex, Productivity and Motivation. All good sex begins with foreplay. If you’re having trouble wrapping your head around the idea that sex is crucially important to our existence, start here.
  • Social Influence – Part 1 and Part 2. We break down that diagram above into details and details, and show exactly how ideas about sex, passed down through social constructs, often interfere with our day-to-day productivity.
  • Sexual Energy and Sex Transmutation. Probably the most woo-woo article we’ll ever write. How to channel your “sexual energy” into getting things done effectively.
  • Love and Relationships. A practical (if somewhat nerdy) view on how love works and how relationships can make or break your productivity.
  • Pornography. The neurological reasons why pornography damages your productivity and what to do about it.
  • Asian Efficient Sex. The time management of sex. Cue timers and stopwatches.

Definitions

To help with clarification, here are how we define certain terms used:

  • Libido. The “energy” of your sexual drive, or the normality of function of your sexual drive. Think of it as a component of your physical energy, geared towards sex and flirtation.
  • Sex. Sex between two consenting partners in all its forms – from touching through to intercourse.
  • Sexual Energy. Essentially the same as libido. Commonly used to describe a channeling of that energy into non-sexual pursuits, often for incredible results.
  • Sex Transmutation and Sexual Transmutation. The process of channeling your sexual energy into other things, like a mission in life.

Tools and Applications

Coming soon.

Further Resources

Here are some great places to read up more about sex, as it relates to productivity and efficiency, and as it relates to controlling this vitally important part of your life.

For more research and theory:

  • The Red Queen. An interesting look as to why human beings utilize sexual reproduction rather than simple asexual reproduction.
  • The Evolution of Desire. This book demystifies the human mating behaviors through the extensive research the author and his team has done all over the world.
  • Sperm Wars. Details the biological interaction of sperm, and provides an explanation for a number of human social/sexual behaviors. Not the healthiest outlook on sex and life, but an eye-opening read nonetheless.
  • The Selfish Gene. How our genetic makeup influences our day-to-day decisions and behaviors in unexpected ways.

For better sex:

  • Sex God Method. Written for men. Not for the faint of heart, or anyone concerned with political correctness. If you want to have better sex, this is well-worth a read though.

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khadijah July 11, 2012 at 3:06PM

so funny. i stumbled upon this site from Lifehacker’s link for Building better habits with a mind map…. Red Queen is def an interesting book. however, for most people in real life, none of this practical rationalities matter because people do what they want, they intentionally commit self-destructive acts or sometimes choose short term values over long term (knowingly), not because they’re not rational enough…. but because we’re human. We’re biologically wired to make mistakes no?

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Michelle December 9, 2012 at 1:25AM

This isn’t true — “sex is poorly represented in research and explanation”. It may seem like that depending on one’s academic background, but there is a lot of research and explanation out there, a LOT.
History, psychology, medicine, sociology, genetics, anthropology, biology, literature, …pick almost any academic department / research field (okay, maybe not geology so much!)
This “sex transmutation stuff” was written about a hundred years ago in various early U.S. motivational texts, wasn’t it? And of course it was written about two thousand years ago, and before and after, and has been talked about amongst thinking humans across the eras and continents.

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