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This is a guest post by Kiara Halligan. She works as a coach for Proessaywriting, providing students with motivational advice and career support.

Emotional intelligence first entered public parlance in the mid nineties when Daniel Goleman published a book of the same name. In it Goleman argued that the characteristics of self-awareness, empathy, motivation, and self-regulation fell within the domain of an intelligence that had a direct quantifiable correlation to business success. What this meant was that an individual could develop their emotional skill sets in a productive way to benefit themselves and their employer.

The emotionally intelligent job candidate is one then who has cultivated a specific, relevant series of interpersonal characteristics by which they are able to develop positive and effective relationships with the managers they are working for. These characteristics often go by the name of soft skills in sales. And like any skill, they can be improved over time.

A job seeker can best display emotional intelligence to a potential employer during a job interview. It is vital that the job seeker begin to immediately train themselves for interviews yet to come. In an interview an employer is seeking to learn your motivations—what makes you get out of bed in the morning with purpose. They are feeling out the state of your emotional maturity, how you perceive the world, how you feel about work, and how well composed you are. By showcasing your emotional skills along with your job performance skills and abilities, you make yourself look like an ideal candidate.

We want to know how to gain and improve emotional intelligence in effective, productive ways. We need to know what exactly we mean by this intelligence, and we need to know how to immediately being building and improving it. If I am in an interview, how do I convey that I am emotionally capable and how do I further put these skills to use to make a favorable impression on an employer?

We will list a few of the more relevant traits of emotional intelligence with suggestions on how to develop them within a job search mindset.


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A person with high emotional intelligence is not easily frustrated when things don’t go their way. They have the capacity to handle several annoying interruptions at once. At times in an interview, an employer will interrupt the candidate with nonsensical questions or will allow phone interruptions, anything to test how much patience you have. A person with a high degree of patience is able to accept the interruptions while still following the original train of thought.


Interestingly enough, a good way to develop patience, or the suppression of irritation at interruptions, is through mindfulness training. Mindfulness is another word for awareness: being present within the environment. Irritation, an emotional reaction and the opposite of patience, occurs when one expects a result and runs into an obstacle. By practicing awareness, one lessens reacting with irritation. To practice awareness, sit quietly in a chair for five minutes and concentrate on your breathing. This simple activity will make you more aware of the room and thus more patient.


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Confidence is an emotional trait derived from a mental attitude of capability. The confident person has a high emotional intelligence because they know they can handle any situation. They know that if they cannot handle it, there are resources or strategies they can turn to. A confident person knows there is always an action they can take. A confident person is further able to talk about their weaknesses and failures because they view these things differently. They see a weakness as a project for improvement and not a detriment keeping them from their goals. Confidence is very much based on how you feel about yourself. Those who feel good about themselves have high emotional intelligence.


Confidence is built through a combination of right thinking and consistent activity. You don’t need to do large amazing things immediately to build it. Your brain is wired to think of an action, perform it, and then reward itself with a release of dopamine that feeds the pleasure centers. Normally we think of things to do all the time, but we do not act on them. These then block this natural process, which turns the mind negative. We want to avoid this. So for someone looking for a job, a good way to build confidence would be to plan out a twenty-minute job search activity. Say you decide to search and find five jobs online within your field. This is a simple task, and most job search websites will have plenty of postings. By completing this task you will build your confidence centers. Over time small specific actions like this will grow your inner confidence, and that will feed into your behavior during an interview. From small daily consistency we grow and find success.


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An emotionally intelligent person never complains or criticizes. This is because they realize that complaining has no productive end. When you complain, you put the burden of change on your audience. But it’s not your listener’s job to fix what went wrong or to make up for it. Complaining breeds more complaining, and before long that is all you do. This makes you ineffective. To criticize is to commit the same blunder as complaining. It is to declare something wrong without taking action to change it.

But the positive person—the emotionally intelligent individual—realizes that though bad things occur, they won’t be changed unless there is action. And to act is to be positive, because positivity is the attitude that there is always something productive that can be done. A positive person believes that even a small change is an effective one and that with enough small changes there will be a transformation. To be positive is to be mature and forward thinking. This is vital in our time as problems continue to compound and grow in complexity. An employer desperately needs individuals who have a positive mentality.


To develop a positive mindset, first begin to think in a positive way on a small scale. An example would be “I will get up ten minutes earlier.” Then you set the alarm, it goes off, and you get up earlier. This was a positive change. This helps you to feel good about yourself, which increases your confidence. Being confident, you are more patient. This is the exact road to developing emotional intelligence. It’s about being mindful and making small, consistent choices that are action-based rather than reactive.

It is a long road to developing full emotional intelligence and maturity, but that road is less difficult when one adopts a more realistic plan of consistency over sporadic training. A few changes in thinking applied to an activity every day will help develop your intelligence. This will then change your composure, both when looking for work and when interviewing for jobs. How you think is how you feel is how you act. By tackling our thoughts and applying calm, positive strategies to short, daily tasks, we can make significant improvements on our emotional state. By regulating our own lives we regulate our emotions, and this is an attractive quality to employers.

This is a guest post by Kiara Halligan. She works as a coach for Proessaywriting, providing students with motivational advice and career support.


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